Family and Friends accepting you beacuse of your sexuality

http://ephemeralaviary.blogspot.com/2008/10/no-on-prop-8.html


Wow this is a very touching but yet couranging and supportive piece of writing, I wish your family and friends could be more supportive and understand who you are and how you feel. And be happy for you that you have found someone you love and want to live the rest of your life with them.

xoxo
*Molly*

Risky Business: GET OVER IT!!!

Risky Business: GET OVER IT!!!Congratulations, your opinion pieces pissed me off!!!! Throughout your whole argument you constantly contradicted yourself. How is it that the popularity of interracial dating is proof of racism?

Instead it seems you are the living proof of racism since you perceive interracial dating as a form of bringing back the wounds of the past, judge black men as being foreigners and white women as ugly because they are in interracial relationships. Because to me, interracial dating is living proof that racism is the past and that the youth of today have come to unite and moved away from such stigmas.

We are all DIFFERENT; whether we date people from the same or different race as ours they will always be complications. You could be black or white you will still have to learn about your partners hereditary.

Stop being ignorant because the physical can be blinding; it’s really not about being black or white, or who is wrong or right. None of use are perfect but, you need to start looking with the eyes of the heart because this is the only way you will find happiness.

Risky Business: GET OVER IT!!!

Risky Business: GET OVER IT!!!Congratulations, your opinion pieces pissed me off!!!! Throughout your whole argument you constantly contradicted yourself. How is it that the popularity of interracial dating is proof of racism?

Instead it seems you are the living proof of racism since you perceive interracial dating as a form of bringing back the wounds of the past, judge black men as being foreigners and white women as ugly because they are in interracial relationships. Because to me, interracial dating is living proof that racism is the past and that the youth of today have come to unite and moved away from such stigmas.

We are all DIFFERENT; whether we date people from the same or different race as ours they will always be complications. You could be black or white you will still have to learn about your partners hereditary.

Stop being ignorant because the physical can be blinding; it’s really not about being black or white, or who is wrong or right. None of use are perfect but, you need to start looking with the eyes of the heart because this is the only way you will find happiness.

comment on opinion piece

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I don’t like the way you go on about ‘darkies’, first of all I find the term ‘darkie’ offensive to me. I hear all what you say about sticking to your own kind, maybe you were once rejected but that does not mean every interracial couple will not succeed because of public discrimination. You go on about people having to choose their own kind not considering the fact that you fall in love with the person sometimes. Maybe to you it’s about choosing ‘Mr Right’ but sometimes the heart choose on its own who to fall in love with. To some of us its all about love we do not care who says what!

Are Rhodes Students Snobs or They Are Influenced By The Gtown Environment??

Looking at ones background you will get the sense of different indigenous cultures and traditions at Rhodes. However coming this little gurgle like – “world of fantasies for many students” Rhodes turns a blind eye and students adopts the aura of Rhodes, because Rhodes is predominantly white, being civilised, western and having the famous Paris Hilton’s accent is becoming a norm and regarded as being a snob.

Transformation and development in one’s life is not being snobbish but exactly progress in ones existence. Walking around campus with your iPod singing your favourite Britney Spears “Oops I did it again”, using the latest apple laptop for your assignments and diminishing from the typical Xhosa broken English to the “posh” Paris Hilton accent is not being snobbish. However little Grahamstown seems to be the world of dreams for many students as they are free to be what they want to, and allowing themselves to be transformed and venture into different cultures but yet adopting the Rhodes Culture is not being snobbish but letting the environment have an influence on your personality but not your values, roots and morals. But people outside of Rhodes see me as being snobbish just because I am part of the elite Rhodes students.

“She is such a snob and does not know her roots” my cousins would say just because I used the word expatiate instead of qonda (expatiate in Xhosa) in my sentence. Having to tell my cousins about my handsome boyfriend from Rhodes that I speak highly of is actually a “white” boy. “Are you serious?” “Are you crazy?” “Do you want to be white?” “Rhodes has turned you into a snob?” I was questioned about my “white” boyfriend by my cousins and the rest of the Port Elizabeth (my hometown) who think having a “white” boyfriend is snobbish.

I am not a snob now because I am at a posh or fancy varsity where public phones are referred to as Phone Booth or having to have a cheese and wine instead of “get together”. I do not understand how my pronunciation of the word determine without using the political accent of the word (de-te-mine) can identify if I qualify to be a Rhodes snobbish student or is my posture and the manner in which I interact with white people and have themed white dinner parties with The Thompson Family from Sandton.

I strongly believe that my presence in Rhodes amends and revive ones philosophical strategies but not in one’s being a snob. Coming to Rhodes has not changed me into a snob but into a better person that can easily influence the managing director of Media24 to let me shadow in his company for a week. Rhodes moulds its students by giving them the spotlight and letting us shine as bright as twinkling star in the dark sky. Rhodes is where leaders learn and creates the element of leaders with same level social standards and courtesy. Rhodes turned me into an independent, confident, philosophical balanced and well groomed with courtesy and negotiating skills and a perfect degree for my international ventures. Over and above, Rhodes hasn't changed us into a snobs but. On the divergent, it has given you a lease of life and the energy that goes with it . It is this characteristics that set you apart from other people who are less enthusiastic about this gift God gave to man – that is existence.

Moreover over the years Rhodes is regarded as the best institution for higher learning that accepts posh students from rich and powerful parents from all works of life. The good reputation of the institution is bound to spill over to its witty students. Contrary to popular believe, Rhodes hasn't changed its students into “snobbish” adult brats instead it has fine tuned the different personalities and broadens student’s horizons. Rhodents view the means of survival (this thing we call life) differently. However, the “snobbish” Rhodents still hold on steadfastly to their norms and values as we have not shunned our background. The body language and the manner we carry ourselves is not of snobbish or posh manner but exude our confidence. This buoyancy is misconstrued by some people as being snobbish, posh and bordering on utter arrogance.

Coming to Rhodes has not changed me into a snob but into practicing cultural relativism (accepting other cultures and not putting your culture as being superior).

Heredity is nothing but the Environment is Everything to ones personality!!!!!

Cheers
..........Molly.........

Gossip Girl

Gossip Girl Here, your one and only source of information into the lives of fist year students at Rhodes.

I am sure that we have all heard the saying that Rhodes University is one of the smallest campuses in South Africa, which is true. One of my closes friend couldn’t have put it better when she always says, “Rhodes is like a bubble”. Part of this bubble, you will also agree with me, you will find that they are interesting and inquisitive first year students. I am sure by now you are wondering what the point of me telling you this is. My point is; if you are going to take a small campus like Rhodes which is like a bubble, and place fresh inquisitive first year students what are you bound to find? Gossip!

So, if you think that first year Rhodes female students do not have lives because they are always gossiping about other people, think again. Let me try to break it down for you, we first year females are, captivating, spontaneous, inquisitive and, extrovert human beings. Bored we definitely are not! Make note that in the beginning of this article I never said first year females but first years in general, thus this would also include that guys as well are gossipers.

It has always been said that females gossip more than males. But today I am telling you that males also gossip too, if not more than women, studies from http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/260701/thedebateoverwhogossips.htlm?cat=7%25 have proven that 33 percent of men gossip almost EVERYDAY compared to 26 percent of women. But, ask any man if they gossip, and they will immediately without thinking about it say NO. They assert that it is ‘networking’.

You need to understand that gossiping happens EVERYWHERE, and that EVERYBODY does it, it happens in the residence that people live in, the dinning hall, lectures and even mostly of time starts from people’s statuses or comments on www.facebook.com. The only difference is that men are not willing to expose themselves because they think that this will prove that they are not man enough. Well you see us ladies are man enough to say up front that it is gossiping and yes we do, do it. We do it because we try to have interest in people nonetheless, we also do it because this campus is small and other peoples intriguing stories are continuously being shoved right in front of our faces even when we do not care. So please, tell me who never gossips, and I will tell you that that person lives in their own isolated insignificant world.

If you think that Rhodes is a gossip jungle and keep on moaning that girls here should mind their own business, for you incomplete information they are not the only people who gossip. And secondly, you should know by now that Rhodes is a small Las Vagues island and that what happens on this island does not stay in this island. So I compassionately suggest that you eliminate all you friends, stop parting because it contributes to your intriguing public display of the things you do when you are off campus, keep your business to yourself and try to make it as privet as you can, if you can. Or simply just do not pay your MIP next year and go to the University of Cape Town or some other bigger campus.

Until next time, you know I am right!
Xoxo
Gossip Girl

Dont you think we've heard enough

DON’T YOU THINK WE’VE HEARD ENOUGH
By Babalwa Ngcwayi
I think I have I do not know about everyone out there but I’m tired. I mean everyday you hear Rat and Parrot or Equilibrium. Can’t you people just stop going on and on about EQ and Friars and all these other places that people go to on a Friday night to drown themselves in alcohol, because the first thing people hear about Rhodes University is that the students go to Friars and EQ to enjoy themselves. A person can do whatever they want to do but can you imagine someone asking you about Rhodes and you go on and say ooh it’s a very small town and a great place and that person will be like well what I’ve heard is that the students at Rhodes University drink a lot, do not forget when they say the students you are also included. Doesn’t that make you feel ashamed? Really now doesn’t it talk to me on this one.
Can people just stop going on about these places not that I’m jealous or anything I’m not its just that I think we as students are promoting the wrong thing and Rhodes University on the other side is promoting alcohol awareness. Just bring it down a bit is that too much to ask. I know everyone does not want to be lectured by anybody except their parents in other cases but don’t you feel ashamed when the lecture says “I know what you were up to this weekend, EQ, Rat &Parrot and Friars”. Maybe some of you do not care because you do not have that pride in yourselves some of you go on about freedom what kind of freedom? is that where you do not take care of yourself and just do whatever everyone is doing. That is just not right and first years you know that your parents did not raise you like that.
Every blog that I’ve come across it just has to have something about Friars and the other one actually said that “Friars is one of the great places in Grahamstown”according to this blog www.takinglifeseriously.blogspot.com . Its irritating to hear the same thing all the time I get so annoyed. Yeah we do know places where we as first year students can enjoy ourselves by now there is no need to rave about it everyday its October for Heaven sake. If students want to go to EQ they are welcome to but imagine a first year student in 2009 the first thing they ask you is “Is it true that you guys drink all the time” what would you say in that situation? Yep!! That’s what we do how. What kind of example are you setting if you encourage first year students who have come to Rhodes University with new faces?

I know it’s your first year experiences but come on with thee accidents occurring like the recent rape and smuggling you have to be careful when you go out. Every first year students is going to go through this path and when the time passes they are going to realise that it was not worth it but for now its an “in thing”. Cheers Bubbles